(Ed) // Inviting Jesus into the bedroom of your heart so you can makeout.

The title of this blog makes about as much sense to me as what most Christians say in regard to their "personal relationship with Jesus Christ". Terms like "I met Jesus", "I accepted Jesus", "I asked Jesus into my heart", "I follow Jesus", "I walk with Jesus", and "I love Jesus" just plain and simply frustrate and sadden me. When people say these things, it clues me in that they may lack a true understanding of who Jesus IS and how, as a believer, they are to relate to Him. At most they are but "babes in Christ" and many, I fear, have no idea what it actually means to be saved.


Particularly in the Christian blogging community...I've read post after post by women gushing on and about Jesus as if he were their lover. How he "sings over them" and how he "whispers their name" during their quiet meditations. The PERFECT man who is handsome, loving, wise, kind, exciting, and a joy to be with.

They imagine him holding their hands or wiping away their tears in times of sorrow. They write of feeling overwhelmed by his love for them during their "praise and worship" at church. They are making a God of their own imagination and fashioning him into their very own knight in shinning armor. It is rare thing to see them actually post scripture ("The Message" bible doesn't count) and they certainly never share the Gospel.

Their "personal relationship with Jesus" has become highly sensual... based in feelings, emotions, and imagined experiences. This "relationship" to the Lord of Glory is not only a little disturbing, but it is highly unscriptural.

To truly love him, we must be passionate about what he has already done for us on the cross, not what we imagine him to be doing for us in your day to day lives. Jesus didn't come to make us happy or feel warm and fuzzy on the inside... he came to save us from death, hell, and to reconcile us to God.

So, how should you see yourself in relation to Jesus?

Philippians 3:9

And be found in him, not having mine own righteousness, which is of the law, but that which is through the faith of Christ, the righteousness which is of God by faith.

Colossians 2:12

Buried with him in baptism, wherein also ye are risen with him through the faith of the operation of God, who hath raised him from the dead.

Galatians 2:20

I am crucified with Christ: nevertheless I live; yet not I, but Christ liveth in me: and the life which I now live in the flesh I live by the faith of the Son of God, who loved me, and gave himself for me.

Galatians 3:27

For as many of you as have been baptized into Christ have put on Christ.

Romans 8:1

There is therefore now no condemnation to them which are in Christ Jesus, who walk not after the flesh, but after the Spirit.

Romans 8:2


For the law of the Spirit of life in Christ Jesus hath made me free from the law of sin and death.

Colossians 3:3

For ye are dead, and your life is hid with Christ in God.

Those who hear the gospel ((That Christ died for your sins and was buried and raised on the third day for your justification )) and believe it are finally made aware that they are dead and lost in their sin.

And what's a dead person to do?

By believing on the Lord Jesus Christ for salvation, we are then IDENTIFIED with Christ's (death), able to shed the dead old man (burial), and then we put on the very much living body of Christ (resurrection). For in HIM we live, and move, and have our being (Acts 17:28a). A believer's LIFE is very literally found IN CHRIST.

The main problem I have with the whole "having a personal relationship with Jesus" is that it confuses the issue. Yes, if saved, our relationship to Christ is obviously personal in that we personally trusted and believed on Him for our salvation. But, it is NOT relational in the sense that HE is someone outside of ourselves with whom we are having a relationship... like a lover, friend, parent, etc. WE are now a part of HIS body! I once heard it put like this: we should stop trying to hold his hand and understand that we are his hand. AMEN!

And here's some truth that may be hard for some to swallow: Jesus wasn't sent to show us how to live a good life, to be our example for righteous living, or to make our life better by showering us with "blessings". He was given to us to be the propitiation for our sins... to take the punishment that WE deserve. His sacrifice was deemed worthy and we are only worthy in God's eyes if we are found IN His Son. When God looks at us (if saved), he doesn't see US (or our sin) any longer. He doesn't love us for our sake or for what we do "for him"... he loves us for Christ's sake!

So, I ask...When you look at yourself what do you see...a Christian, a "good" person, a child of God, a disciple or follower of Jesus? And when you look at Jesus what do you see... the lover of your soul, a friend, teacher, an enlightened being?

Jesus is the Saviour of the world and you can only be one of two things: redeemed and hid in Him or a sinner in need of salvation.


Don't you think it's about time you and Jesus had "the talk" about where your relationship is headed?


(Lov)e,


-k.